At one point though, a few of us got into a debate about pornography and prostitution, and I got very frustrated. I still am when I think about it now. I seemed to be the only one who thought either of those professions was demeaning and/or abusive--at one point I was asked if I had ever enjoyed sex (which of course has nothing to do with anything). I was pretty heartbroken, I'm not going to lie. I hate how I can't seem articulate my feelings and my knowledge. I know there are women who do not go into these professions willingly. I know there is sex trafficking in the United States, as well as many many other countries around the world. I know girls are sold into prostitution as young as 3 in some parts of the world. People have seen it, lived it, they can attest to it. And it hurts me to think that some people believe all women have and make a choice when this happens to them.
And that's not to say it's like that for all women who are prostitutes or in porn. Not at all. I'm sure some of them do it because they believe it is the best way for them. But then again, what does that say about our society that they feel this is going to be the best way for them to spend their lives? There are so many variables in every life that could lead to prostitution or porn. Abuse, neglect, an unloving environment, daily insults about one's lack of self-worth.
I am lucky enough to not have to live through that nightmare, and every single person at that party last night is just as lucky. At least the ones engaged in the discussion. It really pains me to think that people make blanket assumptions about choice, especially today.
I have a friend who worked at an organization two summers ago that helped get girls out of prostitution, fought against sex traffickers. It really disturbed her to do it, but she did it because she knew she had to do what she could to help these girls. I saw her face when she was talking about it, and I dare anyone to say all women have a choice in the matter after watching her.